I have spent so much time on my own traveling, hiking, going for meals that independence is my comfort zone. I am able to do what I want when I want, I do not need to worry about the judgements of others asking why I do certain things or giving me any hassle.When I am out in the world on my own I come across fascinating people that I meet just sitting on the beach, standing at a bus stop or in the airport security line. I love meeting new people because these relationships always start from a clean slate. There are no preconceived notions of how I should act, who I should be or what I should look like. This is when I truly feel most calm and relaxed. However, more and more I feel that to continue to learn about myself and my place in this world I am searching out longer term relationships. Instead of running away when I don't meet eye to eye with someone or I start feeling uncomfortable because I think my independence is getting sucked away I am consciously practicing developing my direct communication and my emotional connection without losing my true self. I have reached a point where solo traveling does not satisfy me like it used to. I now look to travel with loved ones where we can share special moments like an Indian Sunrise, a Hawaiian Sunset or a Galapagos moonrise together while embracing the pure contentness of the present moment.
I recently spent 10 days traveling with a new friend of only a few moths despite us feeling like soul sisters. It was a great learning experience for me to practice my communication skills. I have a habit of internalizing my true word and running away when I cannot handle it anymore. With my friend I was challenged and inspired to speak my mind. I take what I learned these past 10 days as friends and translate that into a romantic relationship. I feel much more clear about my true personality and what sort of partner I am looking for to compliment me, teach me and allow me to grow.
My friend said it very well, "In a true relationship you are loving and supporting the one you are with while still honouring your own truth."
