The Informality of Dating: Better or Worse?

We are all connected and not only by the source anymore. We live a fast paced lifestyle with our address/phone book always right at our finger tips. Like most people who use smartphones, I find pros and cons to being connected. Personally I love the ability to be able to call my best friends from university and talk to them almost any time of the day via skype or facetime but I do not prefer how much conversation is done through texting.  In regards to the dating scene I find a certain informality to it now. In the past one would have searched out your number or come up with a clever way to ask you for it, called you and talked to you in person. Then they would have set up a time and place for a date. This date involved getting to know one another, seeing if you were compatible. This “get to know you stage” is now almost obsolete due to the wide array of personal information on line. I can meet someone casually, google their name and then I go through that first date process and learn about them via their facebook, twitter or instagram. So is this better or worse?

Times are always changing so it is hard to make a judgement on the new age way of communication but I am the first to admit that I blur the lines between friends and dating prospects. Talking to people via text is safe. It allows me to get to know someone from a far with no commitment needed. But this non-committal conversation seems to be more a way to humour myself when I am bored or alone and does not seem to lead to any romantic endeavors. I believe if there were romantic feelings in the mix then texting conversation is limited and an effort is made for physical dates. To avoid getting hurt, I find a lot of people test the waters but never quite jump in. For example, I received a text one evening and all it said was a name of a pub. There was no phone call there wasn’t even a question mark. If you are interested in a person, call them, set up a date (I say that to myself as well!). If it doesn’t work out then that’s ok it wasn’t meant to be. The morphic energy field of this universe is in your favour if you allow yourself to be in the flow.