Everyone deserves honesty. Sometimes we are deceiving with our word because we do not want to "hurt" the person on the other end of the conversation. However in doing this, we have created drama. We think the other person (sorry ahead of time for the quote of a movie line) cannot handle the truth. We think they are not strong enough or they will be upset. However this sort of approach does not give the receiver any moral credit. You have now put them in a 'poor me' category. I believe it is important to spit out the facts, have courage and tell the truth, all the time. No matter what the situation and no matter what 'you think' will be the outcome. TELL THE TRUTH.
I speak of this through experience. I know we have all been in a situation where you just wanted the truth. Since we cannot control what others are going to do or say, in order to make this a reality in my life I have done my best to start living my truth. I speak my feelings, I act accordingly and I let others know what I am thinking. I am not a mind reader and not many of us are. Thinking that others know what we want is only going to end in disappointment. You are not being selfish if you put in your opinion...and don't forget we are all entitled to our own opinion.
Effective honesty is to be used in all situations in life however I am going to take one example in terms of romantic feelings. Romance is an area in our lives where so much drama is created. Situations are dreamt up, expectations are not met and we are all trying to live up to finding "the one". I do not beleive we have just one "soulmate". There are so many people in the world... in our Country, ok wait...in our very own city and neighbour who we are compatible with. I do not believe that if we speak of truth then we are spoiling any magic, actually I think the opposite... truth allows the magic to reveal itself.
I recently approach a friend with romantic feelings. The feelings were not mutual but I had to put my feelings forth in order to let them go. It was a great decision as now our friendship has developed stronger. I have been able to move past any story I had created in my mind. I often find myself listening to my girlfriends chat about their dating scene and I throw my two cents into the mix about being honest. "Why don't you just tell him the truth?", I'll say. This is received often with a, "No, I could never do that!"
I find that when I am honest, it takes up a lot less of my energy. Living in the city, working in a service industry and exercising daily adds enough stress and strain to my body, I do not need to add stress on my body through created drama. It is important to our mental wellbeing to let our feelings flow instead of bottling them up inside and hoping or wishing that something will come from it.
I speak of this through experience. I know we have all been in a situation where you just wanted the truth. Since we cannot control what others are going to do or say, in order to make this a reality in my life I have done my best to start living my truth. I speak my feelings, I act accordingly and I let others know what I am thinking. I am not a mind reader and not many of us are. Thinking that others know what we want is only going to end in disappointment. You are not being selfish if you put in your opinion...and don't forget we are all entitled to our own opinion.
Effective honesty is to be used in all situations in life however I am going to take one example in terms of romantic feelings. Romance is an area in our lives where so much drama is created. Situations are dreamt up, expectations are not met and we are all trying to live up to finding "the one". I do not beleive we have just one "soulmate". There are so many people in the world... in our Country, ok wait...in our very own city and neighbour who we are compatible with. I do not believe that if we speak of truth then we are spoiling any magic, actually I think the opposite... truth allows the magic to reveal itself.
I recently approach a friend with romantic feelings. The feelings were not mutual but I had to put my feelings forth in order to let them go. It was a great decision as now our friendship has developed stronger. I have been able to move past any story I had created in my mind. I often find myself listening to my girlfriends chat about their dating scene and I throw my two cents into the mix about being honest. "Why don't you just tell him the truth?", I'll say. This is received often with a, "No, I could never do that!"
I find that when I am honest, it takes up a lot less of my energy. Living in the city, working in a service industry and exercising daily adds enough stress and strain to my body, I do not need to add stress on my body through created drama. It is important to our mental wellbeing to let our feelings flow instead of bottling them up inside and hoping or wishing that something will come from it.
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